Why You Can't Love Someone Into Stopping: The Neuroscience of Addiction and the People Who Stay

If you have been carrying the belief that this was all on you — that the right amount of love, correctly applied, should have fixed it — I hope this loosens something. You have been trying to solve with your heart a problem that lives in someone else's chemistry. The love was never the thing that failed. It was simply never the thing that could do this particular job alone.